Tantric Lovemaking

 

Part of tantric lovemaking involves eliminating the routine nature of intimacy. The timing can be crucial, but a routine schedule can lead to boredom or tedium. This is harder to achieve for couples who both work and live together. Throw a couple of kids into the mix and you've got a real challenge. The usual night undoubtedly involves making dinner, cleaning up, throwing in a load of laundry, putting the kids to bed, and finally calling it a night yourself. Lovemaking always occurs between lights out and morning for most people, but tantric practices call for spontaneous timing. If you remember, I used to harp about finding out your partner's priorities because you don't wait until after you're married to discuss the big stuff like finances, religion, motivation, or spontaneous behavior. Some people thrive on spur of the moment activities like running out for ice cream.
Others must have routines and order. Even if you are totally regimented, tantric lovemaking can't be held to a schedule. When you don't expect it, you find your focus is much more intense. You've been caught off guard so touching feels different, foreplay has more of an edge, and both partners feel a renewed energy. Tantric lovemaking is not about marathon behavior, but quality. Males can begin the practice of prolonged gratification by learning to delay ejaculation. The goal of lovemaking is not ejaculation, but orgasm.

Men in their 20's and 30's will notice a renewed strength by not always ejaculating during sex. This practice is something I've covered ad nauseum, but it involved strengthening the pc muscle. It doesn't mean you have to stop in the middle of it, but slowing down when you notice you've hit that plateau of no return is a start. By delaying ejaculation you give her the message that it's about her pleasure. When you give any woman more time to really let go and embrace her own pleasure, the whole experience is heightened.
Tantric couples have a special glow and energy that other people are in tune with, and males who don't always ejaculate during sex have more energy. Because they are less depleted, their skin looks healthier, they don't have bags under their eyes, and once they decide to ejaculate it can be a healthy release rather than something that spends all of their energy. I will repeat that these men still experience orgasms; they just don't always ejaculate. This enables them to make love more than once a night if their partner chooses.
Most women will admit to yearning more than once an evening, but if their partner can't be aroused more than once, they won't press the issue. Tantric couples have the satisfaction of knowing they can fulfill their partners needs plus their own. There is no lingering doubt about if they're "enough" for their partner. Tantric practices lead to confidence and harmony. I suggest everybody try this before they pass judgment. It will be one of the most gratifying exercises you've ever tried. Good luck!